An educator, speaker, writer and advocate Dani considers herself first and foremost a disruptor of shame and silence. A victim of child sexual abuse, Dani speaks openly about her experience-- from the crime itself to reporting it three decades later-- candidly and openly.
Dani's written work about about trauma, mental health, and women's issues has appeared in the Washington Post, Huffington Post, The Week, and other outlets.
She speaks on a wide range of topics:
Sexual abuse and assault
Cultural issues in the NFL
Other topics related to education
Industry Expertise (3)
Areas of Expertise (5)
University of Colorado: M.A., Clinical Mental Health Counseling 2015
University of Scranton: M.S., Curriculum and Instruction 2008
Catholic University of America: B.A., Greek and Latin 1998
Summa cum Laude, Phi Beta Kappa, Academic All American
Media Appearances (4)
On the Line
Vice reporter Liz Field hosted a panel discussion about untested rape kits. My segment begins at 11:30.
Decades later, victims of sexual assault speak out
HuffPost Live online
Adult victims of child sexual abuse share their stories.
Former coach gets 15 years for child sex abuse
Raw footage of an interview with WUSA after the perpetrator associated with my case was sentenced.
Al Jazeera Weekend News
Al Jazeera America tv
Discussion of NFL's policy's regarding uniforms and recent fines against players commemorating parents lost to cancer and domestic violence.
Event Appearances (6)
Colorado Organization for Victim Assistance
COVA 2015 Keystone, Colorado
TEDx Colorado Springs
TEDx Colorado Springs Colorado Springs, Colorado
Safe Sport Conference Colorado Springs, Colorado
Rock Vista University College of Osteopathic Medicine
Sexual Assault Awareness Week Parker, Colorado
National Conference Nashville, TN
TEDxGreenville Greenville, SC
- Workshop Leader
- Corporate Training
"Like some victims, I took years-- decades actually-- to come to grips with what happened to me. But unlike most, I ultimately came forward, reported the crime, and allowed my name to be used in public court records and news accounts."
1. Any statement that begins with "at least."
There is no mitigating the horror and pain of a sexual assault by comparing it with another worse crime. "At least you've learned how to function." "At least" statements ignore the victim's present pain.
It's easy to explain away symptoms as more socially acceptable and common conditions. "Must be depression!" Or, "Oh, I guess I've always been hypersensitive." Those statements are easier to say than, "I think I have PTSD."
Instead, she came across as a blonde ditz of the "math is hard" ilk, a common and unfortunate trope that reinforces stereotypes that women are less intelligent, tech savvy, and competent than men.
Until recently, I -- like most victims -- participated in a code of silence, burying all memories of my traumatic childhood, feeling a deep sense of shame, and walking through life burdened by a secret I was keeping from everyone -- even myself.