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Neil McNerney - . Reston, VA, US

Neil McNerney

Author, Relationship Expert, Parenting Guru


Helping Parents and Educators Become Better Leaders



Neil McNerney Publication


I wish my parents


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Neil McNerney is a Licensed Counselor, Professional Trainer, Community Speaker, and Author.

He has worked with parents for the past 25 years as a school counselor and in private practice in Reston, VA.

He serves on the faculty of the Virginia Tech Graduate School of Marriage and Family Therapy, where he teaches courses on counseling children and their parents.

Neil is author of Homework – A Parent’s Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out! which is a guidebook based on his 25 years helping parents become the best leaders they can be.

Neil speaks nationally on many family and school topics. His activities have brought him to 30 Loudoun County schools, where he has spoken to parents and staff on the topics of parenting, discipline, homework, the teenage brain, and leadership.

Neil and his wife, Colleen, have two children, Max 14; and Shannon 12, who attend Blue Ridge Middle School. His kids provide him with plenty of opportunities to be humble and to remember how hard parenting can be.

Industry Expertise (10)

Social Services

Religious Institutions


Mental Health Care

Professional Training and Coaching

Health Care - Providers

Health and Wellness



Training and Development

Areas of Expertise (7)

Parenting With Purpose

The Five Secrets to Disclipline






Accomplishments (3)

Adjunct Faculty Member at Virginia Tech's Graduate Marriage and Family Therapy Program (professional)

Keynote Speaker - Virginia Association of Specialists in Group Work (professional)


"If You Build It, Will They Come? Increasing Parent Participation at School Programs"

Keynote Speaker - Virginia Counselors Association (professional)


"Burnout Prevention - It's More Than Just Self Care"

Education (2)

James Madison University: Counseling Psychology, M.Ed. 1988

Virginia Tech: LPC, Licensure Certification in Marriage and Family Therapy 1994

Testimonials (2)

Hal Runkel, Author of ScreamFree Parenting | The ScreamFree Institute

"Neil is a gifted communicator, able to introduce ideas in a way that make perfect sense out of complicated dynamics, and leaves parents feeling renewed and ready for action. Neil is a professional worth watching and learning from. I know I have." - Hal Runkel, NY Times bestselling author of ScreamFree Parenting

Pam Brott, Immediate Past President | Virginia Counselors Association

An important consideration for me as I envisioned the theme and aspirations for this event was a keynote speaker whom the audience knew and would relate to at an early morning hour. The initial evaluations of you as the keynote speaker reflect a very high rating. Neil, you certainly delivered! Neil, I respect the work you are doing to provide professional development to professional counselors in a variety of settings. I have attended your sessions and find your presentation style engaging and informative.

Event Appearances (30)

Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  Lanier Middle School PTA


Reduce Homework Stress

Parenting Expo  Mercer Middle School


Westfield High School Faculty Training

Faculty Training  Westfield High School


Dominion High School Parent Presentation

Parenting Expo  Dominion High School


"Just Calm Down"

Training for Virginia Elementary Principals  VA



Loudoun Youth After School Presentation - "Homework"  Loudoun Youth After School Presentation


Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  Bonnie Brae Elementary School


"Homework Book Club" and "Leadership Through Admiration"

VASGW Conference  Northern Virginia Community College Annandale Campus


Staff Training

Staff Training  Creighton's Corner Elementary


Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out

Parenting Expo  Creighton's Corner Elementary School


Helping Overly Anxious Parents

Staff Training  Catholic Diocese of Arlington Counseling Staff, St. Timothy School


Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  Cedar Lane Elementary School


Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  Chantilly High School


The Three Things Parents Can Do To Reduce Student Stress

Parenting Expo  Langley High School, McLean, VA


Just Focus! - Five Ways to Help Your Student Increase Willpower

Parenting Expo  Westfield High School


Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  J Michael Lunsford Middle School


"Just Calm Down!" Helping Parents Calmly Deal With School Issues

Parenting Expo  NVCA - Paul VI High School


Collaborating with Overly Involved Parents

American School Counselor Association Annual Conference,  Minneapolis, MN


If You Build It, Will They Come? Strategies to Increase Participation For Your Program

National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education  Baltimore, MD


The Teenage Brain

Lunsford Middle School Faculty Training   Chantilly, VA


Homework Anxiety

Radio Interview  AM 630, St. Louis, MO


Counselor Self Care

Fairfax County Secondary Counselors Training  Robinson Secondary School, Fairfax, VA


Bullying and The Critical Need for Trust, Communication and Leadership

Radio Interview  KSRR, Provo, UT


Professional Training

Loudoun County Youth After School Professional Training  Loudoun County


Homework- A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  James Madison High School


Exhausted Parents

Radio Interview - Exhausted Parents Network  Radio Interview


Radio interview for Grandparents Today

Radio interview  Grandparents Today


Radio Interview - Talktainment Radio

Radio Interview  Talktainment Radio


Radio Interview

Radio Interview  BTR Long Island


Homework- A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Parenting Expo  Lanier Middle School


Sample Talks (4)

Homework - A Parent's Guide To Helping Out Without Freaking Out!

Neil McNerney, a licensed counselor and parenting expert, will show you ways to help your child do better in school without arguments, yelling, or guilt. In his 25 years working with school-age children and their parents, Neil McNerney has developed a simple and powerful approach that will increase achievement and decrease aggravation! Neil will guide your group through a simple process to find a way to help your child based on which faulty coping pattern your child is using.

If You Build It, Will They Come? Increasing Parent Participation

You have developed your workshop, copied handouts, and prepared your notes.How do you fill the seats? Although there is still a place for one waycommunication, we now have more powerful ways of recruitingparticipants. This workshop will give school counselors a recruitmentmodel that goes beyond one-way communication.

Burnout Prevention - It's More Than Just Self Care

We have been looking at burnout prevention from the wrong perspective. Neglecting our self-care is just a symptom of other issues; it is not the cause of burnout. Focusing only on self-care will never get to the primary issue of burnout. Neil will share his model of burnout prevention that has its roots in relationship theory. When we can begin to understand our job through the lens of a relationship, we then have the tools to reduce burnout.

The Teenage Brain -Temporary Insanity?!

“What Were You Thinking?” That’s the thing…they weren’t thinking. At least in the way we understand “thinking.” Neil McNerney, a licensed professional counselor and parenting expert, will share with you an easy-to-understand model of what’s going on inside your teen’s head. Most importantly, he will give you specific ways to deal with your teen without losing your own sanity!



  • Keynote
  • Panelist
  • Workshop Leader
  • Author Appearance


500 to 5000 *Will consider certain engagements for no fee