Seniors and AI (Part 2): Exercise Caution

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Sue Pimento

If you haven't read Seniors and AI (Part 1) What Could Possibly Go Wrong?, catch up here.



My friend Gloria told me she asked her AI assistant what to do about a “sore knee,” and it suggested she might be experiencing “symptoms consistent with early-stage gout, possible DVT, or referred pain from lumbar stenosis.” Gloria is 74, lives alone, and spent the next three hours convinced she was dying. She was not. She had slept on the couch in an awkward position.


This is Part 2 of our look at Seniors and AI. If Part 1 was about the laughs, Part 2 is where we put on our reading glasses and pay attention. When technology moves from ordering groceries to offering medical advice or emotional support, the stakes get considerably higher than an accidental pineapple on your pizza.


AI and Medical Advice: The Good, the Bad, and the “You Googled What?”


Let’s give credit where it’s due. AI genuinely helps in healthcare in meaningful ways. It’s available at 2 AM without judgment. It translates medical jargon into plain English. It can help you walk into a doctor’s appointment with better questions instead of the usual panicked stare.

But here’s what it cannot do: see you, touch you, or notice you’re limping. It can’t smell an infection, hear the wheeze in your chest, or detect the subtle signs that something is wrong. At its core, it is an elaborate and very polite Google search. Not a doctor.


Takita et al. (2025), in a systematic review and meta-analysis published in Digital Medicine, found that the overall diagnostic accuracy of generative AI models is about 52 percent. Read that again. Fifty-two percent. Suitable for a second opinion, nowhere near sufficient to replace an experienced clinician. And yet, we hear a confident-sounding response and think, “Well, the computer said so.” Confidence and correctness are not the same thing, a lesson most of us learned the hard way in our thirties.


When AI Is Safe (and When It Is Decidedly Not)


Go ahead and ask AI about:

  • What does that lab term on your bloodwork actually mean
  • Common side effects of medications you’re already taking
  • Questions to bring to your next appointment
  • General information about a health condition


Do not ask AI about:

  • Anything you’d describe as “just making sure it’s not something bad”?
  • Chest pain, sudden numbness, or anything that begins with “I’ve never felt this before”
  • Whether to stop taking a medication
  • Whether your symptoms are serious enough to go to the ER


Think of AI as the helpful intern, not the chief medical officer. You’d let the intern look something up for you, but you wouldn’t let the intern prescribe your blood pressure medication.


Bottom line: if you wouldn’t trust your toaster to measure your blood pressure, don’t trust a chatbot to diagnose your heart.


AI Therapy: Comfort or Catastrophe?


Mental health chatbots promise empathy. Let’s be precise about what that means: they simulate compassion, not feel it. There is a difference, and it matters.


A Stanford University study (Moore & Haber, 2025) warns that therapy chatbots can reinforce stigma or provide genuinely unsafe responses. They can’t detect tone, see tears, read a room, or call for help when things turn dark. This is especially concerning for older adults. Loneliness and depression are common among seniors and are routinely dismissed as “just slowing down” or “getting older.” That’s not aging. Those are invisible illnesses that deserve real attention and real human connection.


The Signs We Miss


According to the National Institute on Ageing’s 2025 Ageing in Canada Survey, 57 percent of Canadians over 50 report feeling somewhat or very lonely, and 43 percent are at risk of social isolation. These figures haven’t changed since 2022. This is not a fringe problem. It is a quiet epidemic hiding in plain sight.


Watch for these signs in yourself and in the people you love:

  • Pulling back from activities they once loved
  • Sleeping too much or not nearly enough
  • Loss of appetite or unexplained weight changes
  • Talking nonstop when the company finally arrives (that’s hunger or severe loneliness, not chattiness)
  • Inventing reasons to call or visit
  • Self-deprecating humour that feels a little too real.


Here’s a small but important piece of advice: don’t ask, “Are you lonely?” You’ll get a cheerful “Of course not!” Pride and independence run deep, especially among a generation that survived things we can’t imagine.


Instead, act as if. Drop by with coffee. Ask for help with something they are well versed in. Bring the dog. Go for a walk. Sit quietly and watch a show together. Share a meal. Loneliness doesn’t always need a conversation. Sometimes it just needs to know someone showed up.


What Your Elder Is Thinking (But Will Never Tell You)


Tread carefully here. These thoughts tend to live in the quiet spaces between sentences, felt but rarely spoken.


  • How much time do I have? Have I done enough?
  • Will my money run out before I do?
  • Will anyone remember me?
  • Do I still matter?
  • Why do I feel so sad? Why are my friends getting sick and slipping away?
  • Will I get sick? Who will look after me?
  • Do my children know I love them?
  • What if I start to forget? The creeping fear of losing names, faces, the stories that make life feel like mine.
  • Am I a burden? (This one usually hides behind a joke.)
  • What if my best days are already behind me?


Some of these will surprise you. Some won’t. Some will make you want to pick up the phone right now. That’s the right instinct. You don’t need to fix these feelings. Sometimes, sitting quietly with someone in the silence between their words is the most healing thing you can offer.


For the Family: What to Watch For and What to Do


A quick note for the kids, grandkids, nieces, nephews, and anyone who forwards funny videos to their grandparents: your elders are going to experiment with AI. Probably the same way you experimented with your first beer or a regrettable tattoo: curious, enthusiastic, and occasionally overconfident.


Watch for these warning signs:

  • Increasing withdrawal from real-world activities and people
  • Confusion about what is real versus AI-generated
  • Replacing actual conversations with chatbot exchanges
  • Acting on AI medical or financial advice without verifying it with a professional
  • Being secretive or evasive about what they’re doing online


Here is what you can do:

  • Connect regularly. Ask what they’re learning or laughing about.
  • Create opportunities for in-person time. FaceTime counts in a pinch, but in-person is irreplaceable.
  • Know when to call the doctor. Know when all they need is your time.
  • Don’t lecture. Don’t infantilize. Just stay connected.


The best firewall against the risks of AI is not better technology. It’s better relationships.


The Real Threat: Replacing Connection


Here is the uncomfortable truth. AI is tempting. It’s always available, never interrupts, doesn’t judge, and responds instantly without getting distracted by its own problems. For someone who feels lonely, invisible, or like a burden, that can feel like a lifeline.


But it’s a false one. AI cannot hold your hand or share a meal. It can’t laugh at your jokes in a way that truly counts. It cannot offer the warmth of human presence, which is what we need most, especially as we age.


The danger isn’t primarily that AI will give bad medical advice, though it might. The danger is that it will replace human connection altogether. And that is a problem no algorithm can solve.


CTRL ALT DEL: Now Go Call Someone


AI is a tool. Part marvel, part mistake, and entirely dependent on who holds it. Use it wisely. Enjoy the entertainment. Stay curious. And remember who is actually in charge.

Technology will keep getting smarter. It will not get warmer. It will not hear the sound of your laugh, remember the story you’ve told seventeen times, or show up at the door with soup when you’re not feeling well. That is still us. That will always be us.


So yes, let Gloria ask her AI about her knee. But let’s also make sure someone calls Gloria on Tuesday.


Key Takeaways

  • Use AI for information, not diagnosis or treatment.
  • Stay alert to signs of loneliness in yourself and in the people you love.
  • Stay genuinely connected with older family members and friends.
  • When in doubt, choose the human over the algorithm.


The greatest upgrade to AI isn’t a newer version. It’s showing up.


Sue


Don't Retire...ReWire!


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