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Your First Scroll of the Day Is Wrecking Your Sleep and Focus, Says ADHD Therapist

Psychotherapist Harshi Sritharan explains how that “harmless” morning scroll hijacks your brain’s reward system, keeps your nervous system on high alert, and quietly fuels anxiety and exhaustion.

Nov 27, 2025

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Harshi Sritharan

For many people, the day doesn’t start with getting out of bed - it starts with reaching for the phone.


Psychotherapist Harshi Sritharan, who specializes in ADHD and anxiety, says that tiny habit is doing more damage than most of us realize.


“When you check your phone before you’ve even sat up, you’re flooding your brain with microbursts of dopamine,” she explains. “Dopamine is a key part of our motivation and reward system. Those quick hits of novelty - notifications, texts, news, social feeds - tell the brain, ‘This is where the good stuff is.’”


The problem? That early surge doesn’t just switch on your day. It primes your nervous system to stay on high alert.


“You’ve now trained your brain to expect that level of stimulation,” Sritharan says. “For many people with ADHD, nothing else in their day compares - school, work, chores all feel flat by comparison. That’s where that constant ‘I’m bored’ feeling can come from.”


That ongoing “high alert” isn’t just about boredom, though. It’s also a sign of a dysregulated nervous system: your brain scanning for the next hit of information, your body sitting in low-level fight-or-flight. Over time, that uncertainty - What’s waiting for me in my inbox? Did I miss something? - can exacerbate anxiety and executive dysfunction.


Nighttime habits make things worse. Those late-night emotional spikes from doom-scrolling, stressful emails, or intense content don’t just keep your mind busy. They can trigger the sympathetic nervous system - the body’s fight, flight, or freeze response - and potentially release stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.


“That combination,” Sritharan notes, “blocks melatonin, dysregulates the nervous system, and sends your body the opposite message of what it needs before sleep. You’re basically telling your brain, ‘We’re in danger,’ and then expecting it to rest.”


Instead of shaming people for these habits, Sritharan takes a “knowledge equals power” approach.


“I don’t tell clients, ‘Just stop doing that,’” she says. “I teach them what’s happening in their brain and nervous system so they can understand why it feels so hard to put the phone down. Once people see the pattern, they feel less broken - and more motivated to experiment.”


“Most people don’t need a total digital detox,” Sritharan says. “They need skills, not shame. When they understand how their brain is wired - especially with ADHD - they can design habits that work with their nervous system instead of against it.”


Her message to anyone who feels stuck in the cycle: don’t blame your willpower.


“This is your biology, not a personal failure,” she says. “When you understand what your brain is doing, you can finally start changing the script.”


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About the Expert

Harshi Sritharan is a psychotherapist who focuses on ADHD, anxiety, and intentional tech use. She helps clients understand dopamine cycles, rebuild healthy routines around sleep and screens, and create realistic boundaries that work in real life - not just on paper. Harshi is part of the Offline.now ADHD Expert Community.

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