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Is Your Phone About to Ruin Thanksgiving Dinner?

Licensed Marriage and family therapist Gaea Woods shares simple, low-pressure ways to be more present at the table - without policing everyone’s screen time.

Nov 20, 2025

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Gaea Woods

Thanksgiving is supposed to be about connection. But for a lot of families, the quiet guest at the table is everyone’s phone.


Licensed marriage and family therapist Gaea Woods says the damage rarely comes from one big fight about tech. It’s the drip of small moments: someone telling a story while another person scrolls, a partner checking notifications mid-sentence, a teen disappearing into their screen.


“Every time that happens, the signal is: my phone has part of my attention right now,” Woods explains. “Over the course of a holiday, that can add up to people feeling unseen or unimportant.”


Instead of laying down hard-and-fast “phone rules” for the whole family, Woods suggests starting with your own intentions and leading by example.


One simple move: say it out loud. “I’m going to leave my phone in the other room so I can focus on being present and spending time with you all. I invite you to do the same.”


“There’s no pressure, no shaming,” Woods says. “You’re naming what matters to you and opening the door for others to join you.”


Woods emphasizes that the goal isn’t perfection. It’s micro-moments of presence: a few minutes of eye contact, one conversation where everyone’s really listening, a shared laugh that isn’t about something on a screen.


“Most families don’t need another rule,” she says. “They need a way to say: I care about you, and I want more of you here with me right now. Thanksgiving is a beautiful time to practice that.”


About the Expert

Gaea Woods is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples and families navigate communication breakdowns, digital “third-wheel” dynamics, and everyday phone habits that quietly erode intimacy - especially during high-stress times like the holidays. Gaea is part of the Offline.now Relationship Stress expert community.

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Gaea Woods

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Gaea Woods provides depth-oriented, trauma-informed therapy to individuals and couples.

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