Online Dating in 2026: Are Apps Bringing Us Closer or Just Keeping Us Swiping?

Offline.now relationship expert Gaea Woods says dating apps are now the default way to meet, but without better conversations about expectations and boundaries, many couples end up “together but uneasy.”

Jan 1, 2026

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Gaea Woods

In 2025, “We met on an app” is the most ordinary love story in the world. Swiping has replaced setups and chance encounters as the primary way couples connect in many countries. But as online dating becomes normal, a new question is emerging: Are app-born relationships actually as happy and secure as we think?


Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Gaea Woods, an expert in the Offline.now digital wellness directory, sees both sides in her practice.


“Online dating is just a tool,” she says. “It can absolutely bring people together who would never have met otherwise. But the way we use it — the constant options, the ghosting, the parallel conversations — can quietly undermine trust even after you’ve deleted the app.”


Woods says that she hears tension from from clients:


“Singles tell me, ‘I hate the apps, but I don’t know another way to meet people.’ Couples tell me, ‘We met on an app, and I’m grateful — but there’s this low-level anxiety: Would you still be with me if you kept swiping?’ The technology amplifies questions that were always there about choice, commitment and comparison.”


She emphasizes that how couples talk about their “app origin story” matters more than where they met. Unspoken assumptions — about whether exes stay in your DMs, if profiles stay active “just in case,” or how much flirting online is acceptable — often fuel insecurity more than the apps themselves.


“Online dating is here to stay,” Woods says. “The question isn’t ‘Is it bad?’ It’s, ‘How do we use it in a way that supports real intimacy instead of keeping us one foot in and one foot out?’”


Featured Expert

  • Gaea Woods, MA, LMFT – Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist specializing in digital dependency, intimacy and communication in modern relationships. She can speak to app fatigue, the “online dating effect,” how apps change expectations around choice and commitment, and the kinds of conversations couples need to have once the swipe turns into something serious.


Expert interviews can be arranged through the Offline.now media team.


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Gaea Woods

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Gaea Woods provides depth-oriented, trauma-informed therapy to individuals and couples.

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